…as asexual is a thing that I rarely feel the need to do. Especially given the last response I received to doing so. However, I think that I may end up outing myself as aromantic at work. Oops.

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It’s for safety reasons. They showed us a picture of a hand missing part of a ring finger plus the missing part several inches away. Pretty gross.

So I understand the ban, except now I kind of want to draw a ring on my middle finger with a black permanent marker. Which is ridiculous and sounds like something a middle schooler would do, doodling on on skin with pens.

Hmmm, that makes me think black ring tattoo. I wonder if any aces have done that before.

Anyway, I hadn’t even realized how attached I’ve gotten to wearing my ring all of the time. I mean, I’m fairly certain that no one I meet in my day to day life is going to know the meaning behind it.

Still, I like the statement that it makes and I’m going to miss it.

And now I have to make myself stay away from black markers. *sigh*

Original 25 Things.

1.       There’s no such thing as asexuality.

Way to be close minded, ignorant, intolerant, and rude.

2.       It’s just a phase.

Yes, sexual identities are definitely just phases. I’m sure you’ll turn straight/gay/bi any day now.

3.       You’re just a late bloomer.

I am not a flower bud. I am a human being. I may change over the course of my life, but this I am sure about. Even if how I perceive and label myself changes one day, that does not invalidate how identify right now.

4.       You’re in denial.

No, I know my own mind and body, thanks.

5.       That’s the same as celibacy?

Celibacy is a choice. Asexuality is part of who I am.

6.       How do you know if you’ve never tried it?

How do you know that you’re not straight/gay/into *insert fetish here*.

7.       You’re just repressed.

I know myself. You’re the one trying to oppress me.

8.       You’re gay and you just don’t know it.

[deadpan] Suck my dick, I’m a shark. I’m sorry, did that seem like a non-sequitur? So did your original statement.

9.       You just haven’t met the right person yet.

That has absolutely nothing to do with it.

10.   You just have daddy issues.

No, but now you’re making me question your relationship with your father if your mind automatically jumps to that erroneous conclusion.

11.   So do you masturbate all the time?

That has to do with my libido, not my sexual identity. Also, none of your business.

12.   You have no passion or love of life.

You must have a really sad and pathetic life if the only enjoyment you derive in life is from sex.

13.   You’re afraid of sex.

Asexuality does not mean sex phobia.

14.   You’re just selfish.

You’re just a douchebag.

15.   You’ve got to want to f*** something.

I take it you didn’t understand my previous statement at all.

16.   You’re afraid to get close to other people.

Sex is not the only way to get close to other people.

17.   What are you interested in, animals?

Are you trying to be offensive on purpose?

18.   Have you ever had your hormones checked?

Have you ever had your hormones checked to see if you’re hypersexual?

19.   You’re just trying to get attention.

You’re just trying to be a dick. Guess what, you’ve succeeded.

20.   [Silent eyeroll, dirty look]

[stick out tongue, make silly faces; alternatively, flip them off, preferably with a middle finger that has a black ring on it]

21.   You should try Viagra.

Sexual identity, not sexual dysfunction.

22.   You’re still going to get married and have children though, right?

That has nothing to do with my sexual identity. Ask me how I identify romantically. Ask me how I feel about marriage. Ask me if it’s legal for me to get married to who I am attracted to romantically. And then ask me how I feel about children. None of these things are connected.

23.   You can’t be asexual because humans can’t reproduce by themselves.

[as sarcastically as possible] Yes, that is exactly how the human sexual identity of asexuality works.

24.   I don’t think it’s okay for you to be asexual because I just want you to be happy.

I’d hate to have your definition of happiness if you think sex is the only thing necessary to be happy.

25.   Don’t worry, I can cure you of that attitude.

That’s called rape. I may not be able to “cure” your sexuality, though your attitude is definitely the problem, but I sure can make you non-functional if you try to “cure” mine. Would you prefer blunt force trauma or something sharper?

Is a game that I pretty much always win. I’m a rather boring and tame person. But maybe next time I won’t be using experiences I lack due to being ace and/or aromantic.

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So it’s been a while since I’ve done a long, talkative post like I’m prone to do. But that’s not to say that nothing has happened in my life. Oh no, plenty has happened.

Here’s a run down of what I’ve been up to:

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How do I deal with having squishes?

Ignore the feelings until they die down.

*sigh* There’s probably a better way of dealing with this, but oh well.

(I just adore you from afar. More than words can properly express. Platonically.)

Nothing is more frustrating than knowing that you probably really need a hug, but disliking physical contact to the point that someone hugging you to comfort you would be discomforting.

So this showed up on my dash the other day. That also led me here.

I’m kind of surprised that this gave me feelings. I’ve never particularly been drawn to asexuality in fanfiction. Mostly because those fics aren’t often well written or interesting enough for me to get into. I’m kind of a fanfic snob. I don’t want to read a fic just because it’s about an ace. I want to read a fic because it’s really good. But the idea of writing an aromantic asexual character just gave me all of the feelings. You have no idea.

I was actually trying to look into cosplaying an ace character recently, but none of them really appeal to me enough to want to cosplay them. Oh well, I’ll just have to continue to work on interacting socially while in cosplay without stabbing anyone with my props. Though it’s probably a bad idea to let me have potential weapons if there’s a chance I’m going to get hit on.

I kind of started writing something original to fill my newly found need for an aromantic ace protagonist. It’s in a fairy tale setting and it’s about a princess who doesn’t want to get married. Not because she wants to be knight or a blacksmith or a librarian, though that would be awesome in its own right. Not because she would rather marry another princess than a prince, though that would be cool, too. She just doesn’t want to get married (read: romance, sex, etc.) because that’s just something she just does not want.

There’s also dragons and a quest with a common born knight who needs her help. And *gasp* they remain allies and then friends the entire time and don’t fall in love or anything. How about that?

I’ve got something of an opening written, though I need to rewrite it and switch it out of second person. I swear, Homestuck has ruined my narrative style.

Anyway, here’s an excerpt, if you’re interested:

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